This weekend went pretty well. I actually got out of the house. Went to Dave and Buster’s, spent day with girlfriend, went to a childhood friend’s jewlry party. Though it’s been hard, I feel like I’m getting back to my old self.
Here’s a little relationship nugget that I read last night:
As soon as there is any kind of deception, stop everything. If you are trying to help someone and he is lying to you in some way, there is no relationship. The whole thing is a farce, and you should not go any further in trying to help the person until you settle the issue of deception. There are no other issues at that point except that one. Trust is everything in a helping relationship, and when it is broken, it becomes the only issue to work on. Either fix that or end the relationship. Where there is deception there is no relationship.
From Boundaries in Dating by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
Never end a relationship .. analyse what went wrong .. chances are nothing did.. and chances are you can grow it back. Its easy to kill a relationship but do you know how tough is it to feel the same way about another person and build one more..
And in any case can you ever really Stop Everything like switching off a light bulb?… Even after 20 years there is a dim streak of light that haunts you.