Archive | July, 2008

Back from my cruise

29 Jul

Well, I made it back from the cruise. We had a great time despite hurricane dolly. I was a little sea sick but not for long. Check me out. Here are my top ten do’s and don’ts for going on a cruise.

10. Do eat as much as you want. It’s not everyday that you’re on vacation, right? The cruise ship had an endless supply of food, from sun up to sun down. Pretty good, too.

9. Don’t forget your cute little black dress or cocktail dress. Each night you’re invited to a formal dinner and won’t be allowed in with shorts or casual clothes.

8. Do flirt with your waiters and bartenders.

7. Do decide how much you want to spend before you go. After tipping, drinks, souvenirs, excursions, etc., the bill can really add up.

6. Don’t order a lot of sodas or alcoholic drinks if you want to save money. I paid over $2 for a can of Sprite!

5. Do go on an excursion. They are fun and culturally enriching.

4. Don’t pay for a shopping excursion. There are plenty of shops located right outside of the ports.

3. Do get your passport ahead of time. It will definitely expedite the process of embarking and debarking.

2. Don’t buy something at a port without first making a bargain with the vendor. You can get some really good deals.

1. Do have lots of fun!

Blog name change

19 Jul

I just changed the name of my blog. “Emotional Idiot” is so, well, negative. Even though sometimes I am an emotional idiot, that’s not the case all of the time. I believe that we have to speak positive things into our lives. Negative self-talk is a definite way to sabotage your life. So, hence the new blog name.

Here’s another quote from Iyanla Vanzant:

So you think you are not good enough, not “God” enough. You’ve been doing everything you should, the way you should, and still the changes, if any, are slow coming, almost insignificant. You keep wondering what more can you do, how much more should you know, to get yourself, your life, to the point of peace and plenty you desire. You’re asking when will it get better? When will you be better? Maybe, just maybe, things are the way they need to be. That doesn’t mean things will not get better. It means they take time. . . .”

Shameless Flirting

15 Jul

A coworker and I went to lunch like we normally do. I took her to a new place. I was staring down at the menu when I heard this deep, sexy voice in my ear. It was our waiter! He was sooo cute. He kept smiling at me and I kept smiling at him. Finally I said, “You are so cute.” He blushed. Then I blushed. It was so cute. But it just feel nice to just feel comfortable enough to flirt. I didn’t have any intentions on taking it any further. He was probably only like 21 but it was fun.

I was looking at another site about how to get back into the dating game. One way was to just strike up a conversation with a guy. So, I tried it. It wasn’t really much of a conversation but a start to build my confidence.

Lessons from “Sex and the City”

9 Jul

So I went to go see “Sex in the City” tonight . . .by myself. I’ve gone to the movies by myself before but never at night. It was scary and once I got the parking lot, I almost turned around to go home. But I really wanted to see the movie and I decided to go for it. I’m glad I did. It was a great to see one of my small screen favorites on the big screen. I’ve always liked the show because I related in ways to the characters in some ways, though not totally.

Here are my top five lessons learned from the movie:

5. I’m not the only one who’s ever had a “Big” in their life

4. In some situations we need to love ourselves more than others

3. It’s ok to forgive

2. Sometimes when you stop trying, that’s often when you get the thing you want.

1. Love often defies logic

Corny, I know. But fun. The movie was a great first step in dating myself. Next step: dinner alone. That’ll never happen! 🙂 Nite!

Letting go

6 Jul

It’s hard to let go of something or someone that you love and cherish. But sometimes it’s the best thing for you. I read once that not everyone is meant to have a front row seat in your life. That’s so true. But that doesn’t make it any easier to let go of those “unhealthy” people or situations that aren’t good for you. When I go thru these things, I just have to remind myself that I’m “in the meantime” and letting go won’t always hurt so bad in the future. I just pray that God will present me with new opportunities for better relationships and better situations. Waiting is the hard part though.

Taking responsibility for our lives

2 Jul

So, I cut my hair yesterday. I had one of those Angela Bassett in “Waiting to Exhale” or Gabrielle Union in “Breaking all the Rules” moments. There’s something very liberating about cutting your hair. Sometimes I glance in the mirror and I don’t recognize myself though. : ) I have to admit that it was sort of in rebellion of Mr. You-know-who. He never wanted me to cut my hair. I know, I know. I shouldn’t care what he thinks! But now that it’s summer, it’s time for something fresh to go along with my new attitude.

This is something I read from “Faith in the Valley” by Iyanla Vanzant:

“Nothing in life happens passively. We are completely responsible for every experience we have, because we determine how we will respond. . . .Always remember, no what is going on in your life, it is your responsibility to choose how you respond. This does not mean you will not hurt. This does not translate to you should ignore what you feel. Not being a victim and taking responsibility means: feel the pain, honor the shock, look for the leason, and keep on moving in a way that honors who you really are.”

A lot of times, we get caught up in feeling like the victim. We want to blame everyone else for our problems. But as Iyanla stated, we alone are responsible for the things that happen to us. If someone mistreats us, it’s likely because we failed to set up proper boundaries or we were afraid to confront the person. Well, now that we’ve grown and seen otherwise, it’s time to make better choices.

Peace and blessings